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Saturday, October 15, 2016
Saturday, May 7, 2016
#WorstFirstDates Two, The 3 C's
#2 - The 3 C's, Clingy, Crazy, Cheap
Sticking to the theme of having a first date be at the local mall, I had arranged a date with a guy for lunch at the food court. I'm there a bit early so I had time to decide what I wanted to eat, and I waited for my date to arrive. Fifteen minutes later he gets there, and we go up to order. I always offer to pay for my own food, but he insisted he cover it so I let him.
I can't remember exactly what I had, I think it was a poutine or something similar - but it was under $5. His meal was easily double what mine cost, which is important to note for later. Anyways, the date went alright, we had a good conversation and the guy was very nice. We chatted for about an hour and then I said I had to go (I actually did have errands to run, so I did need to leave). I walked him to the bus stop and he leaned in for a kiss, which I rejected simply based on the fact that I didn't feel that comfortable with him quite yet.He seemed a bit dejected, but didn't say anything about it.
So I start walking home, now the walk from the mall to my house is only about 10 minutes. It was lightly raining outside so I kept my phone in my pocket while I walked home. When I got inside, I had over 30 text messages from the guy I had just gone on a date with. All of them along the lines of "That was so much fun." "I miss you already." "When can we hang out again?" "You smelled pretty, what kind of perfume is that?". I was a little creeped out, so I ignored his messages - but they kept on coming.
After about an hour of seemingly non-stop texts, I told him I'd had a good time but I didn't really see our relationship continuing. He threw an absolute fit and claimed I wasted his time, and demanded his money back (yes, his $5 or so that he spent on my lunch). I told him if he wanted it back that badly he could come meet me at the mall and I'd gladly refund him. He didn't have a car, so the bus fare would've been about $2.50 or so. Needless to say, I never heard back from him again.
Sticking to the theme of having a first date be at the local mall, I had arranged a date with a guy for lunch at the food court. I'm there a bit early so I had time to decide what I wanted to eat, and I waited for my date to arrive. Fifteen minutes later he gets there, and we go up to order. I always offer to pay for my own food, but he insisted he cover it so I let him.
I can't remember exactly what I had, I think it was a poutine or something similar - but it was under $5. His meal was easily double what mine cost, which is important to note for later. Anyways, the date went alright, we had a good conversation and the guy was very nice. We chatted for about an hour and then I said I had to go (I actually did have errands to run, so I did need to leave). I walked him to the bus stop and he leaned in for a kiss, which I rejected simply based on the fact that I didn't feel that comfortable with him quite yet.He seemed a bit dejected, but didn't say anything about it.
So I start walking home, now the walk from the mall to my house is only about 10 minutes. It was lightly raining outside so I kept my phone in my pocket while I walked home. When I got inside, I had over 30 text messages from the guy I had just gone on a date with. All of them along the lines of "That was so much fun." "I miss you already." "When can we hang out again?" "You smelled pretty, what kind of perfume is that?". I was a little creeped out, so I ignored his messages - but they kept on coming.
After about an hour of seemingly non-stop texts, I told him I'd had a good time but I didn't really see our relationship continuing. He threw an absolute fit and claimed I wasted his time, and demanded his money back (yes, his $5 or so that he spent on my lunch). I told him if he wanted it back that badly he could come meet me at the mall and I'd gladly refund him. He didn't have a car, so the bus fare would've been about $2.50 or so. Needless to say, I never heard back from him again.
#WorstFirstDates
So there's a twitter tag that's popular right now called "#WorstFirstDates". It was started after Jimmy Fallon (a late night talk show host) asked his twitter followers to tweet to him their worst first date stories. The tweets are a mix of horrifying, funny and just plain odd. Although the majority of them are pretty common, such as "he flirted with another girl", "His pictures were outdated", "He wouldn't shut up about his ex". Which I think have happened to almost every girl who has been on a couple first dates, so I won't include those stories...
But seeing as the entire theme of this blog is to make note of all the cringe-worthy things that have happened to me while online dating, I figured I'd contribute by making a list of all the horrible first dates I've had... Let's begin, shall we?
I thought I'd start off with the very first date I ever had with a man I'd met online... Why I didn't immediately stop after that one, I'm not quite sure.
Shortly after that, a man walks by looking and smelling like he hadn't washed his clothes or showered in a month. He vaguely resembled the photos on his profile, but I wasn't quite sure if it was him or not so I didn't say anything... Then he noticed me and came over to strike up a conversation.
I try very hard to not be judgemental about peoples personal hygiene habits, but this man was absolutely repulsive. I politely finished up shopping then we went to have lunch at the food court. I offered to pay for myself, and ordered the smallest serving of french fries I thought I could choke down... I could barely eat, though. Everything about this guy just seemed dirty, his hair, his breath, his clothes... It was disgusting.
Beyond his appearance though he just seemed like a really dull person. He wasn't as interesting as he seemed over messages, and he had a hard time carrying on a conversation without going off on some tangent about something entirely unrelated.
Anyways, after lunch was over I excused myself and said I had to go home to study for an upcoming test. When I got home I deleted his number and all his messages. He still occasionally checks my profile, which is super awkward. But he never messages me anymore. That was one of the worst first dates I've ever had...
If you'd like to read more of my worst first dates, check out the links below. Since there have been quite a few memorable (for all the wrong reasons) first dates. I will continue to update this post if (more like when...) I have more bad first dates.
#2 - The 3 C's: Crazy, Clingy, Cheap
But seeing as the entire theme of this blog is to make note of all the cringe-worthy things that have happened to me while online dating, I figured I'd contribute by making a list of all the horrible first dates I've had... Let's begin, shall we?
I thought I'd start off with the very first date I ever had with a man I'd met online... Why I didn't immediately stop after that one, I'm not quite sure.
#1 - Smell 'em Before You See 'em
I was always told to stay rather public when first meeting a guy from online, so I arranged a casual lunch date at the local mall. The guy showed up early and texted me asking if I was there yet. I was in the middle of shopping, so I asked him if he wanted to wait or to come meet me while I finished up. He offered to come meet me, so I let him know where I was.Shortly after that, a man walks by looking and smelling like he hadn't washed his clothes or showered in a month. He vaguely resembled the photos on his profile, but I wasn't quite sure if it was him or not so I didn't say anything... Then he noticed me and came over to strike up a conversation.
I try very hard to not be judgemental about peoples personal hygiene habits, but this man was absolutely repulsive. I politely finished up shopping then we went to have lunch at the food court. I offered to pay for myself, and ordered the smallest serving of french fries I thought I could choke down... I could barely eat, though. Everything about this guy just seemed dirty, his hair, his breath, his clothes... It was disgusting.
Beyond his appearance though he just seemed like a really dull person. He wasn't as interesting as he seemed over messages, and he had a hard time carrying on a conversation without going off on some tangent about something entirely unrelated.
Anyways, after lunch was over I excused myself and said I had to go home to study for an upcoming test. When I got home I deleted his number and all his messages. He still occasionally checks my profile, which is super awkward. But he never messages me anymore. That was one of the worst first dates I've ever had...
If you'd like to read more of my worst first dates, check out the links below. Since there have been quite a few memorable (for all the wrong reasons) first dates. I will continue to update this post if (more like when...) I have more bad first dates.
#2 - The 3 C's: Crazy, Clingy, Cheap
Tuesday, March 15, 2016
First Messages
It seems like most (not all, but most) people don't know how to initiate an actual conversation. Seriously, a simple "hey" / "hello " / "sup" / etc doesn't give me much to go on. Especially when it's the first and only message between us. If you're going to message me, at least try and put some effort into it.
Just to use a cheesy fishing example (like you didn't see this coming...) you wouldn't cast a bare hook, right? Well, hopefully you wouldn't. No, you want to add some bait onto that hook. The bait is what will attract the fish to bite. So in this context, the message is the hook, and the text within the message is the bait. A simple "hey" isn't suitable bait, you want something with a bit of meat.
It's not that hard, honestly. Ask a question, go back to your "Coke or Pepsi?" days. Make a comment about something mentioned on the profile, such as a location in a photo or a TV show they mention watching. It can be absolutely anything, but try and make your first message engaging.
Nine times out of ten I will just immediately delete a message if it makes no effort to initiate an actual conversation beyond a "hey". But if you make the smallest effort to prove you browsed my profile, read a section or two and still had interest in chatting with me - I'll return the favor.
If you still aren't sure how to start a conversation with a stranger over social media or dating sites, check out this video.
Just to use a cheesy fishing example (like you didn't see this coming...) you wouldn't cast a bare hook, right? Well, hopefully you wouldn't. No, you want to add some bait onto that hook. The bait is what will attract the fish to bite. So in this context, the message is the hook, and the text within the message is the bait. A simple "hey" isn't suitable bait, you want something with a bit of meat.
It's not that hard, honestly. Ask a question, go back to your "Coke or Pepsi?" days. Make a comment about something mentioned on the profile, such as a location in a photo or a TV show they mention watching. It can be absolutely anything, but try and make your first message engaging.
Nine times out of ten I will just immediately delete a message if it makes no effort to initiate an actual conversation beyond a "hey". But if you make the smallest effort to prove you browsed my profile, read a section or two and still had interest in chatting with me - I'll return the favor.
If you still aren't sure how to start a conversation with a stranger over social media or dating sites, check out this video.
Copyright to Joe Santagato
Sunday, January 10, 2016
Plenty Of Piranhas: An Introduction
Hello there,
Welcome to PlentyOfPiranhas, a blog where I put the "Piranhas" of online dating sites to shame. All these screenshots come directly from my phone and have not been manipulated in any way other than the crude cover-ups of usernames and photos to protect the identities of those involved. I may decide to change this feature in the future, considering some of these people really deserve to be publicly shamed. But I'm not quite ready to take that step.
All the conversations you see on this blog are 100% legitimate. I will never alter or delete messages before posting them on here. Everything is a direct screenshot from my cellphone. All conversations happened over PlentyOfFish or OKCupid unless otherwise specified. All the stories I share are also non-fictional, meaning nothing has been made up or falsified for the purposes of this blog.
I hope you enjoy seeing all the crazy, scary and sometimes odd things I come across in my online dating adventures. Questions and comments are always welcome!
Welcome to PlentyOfPiranhas, a blog where I put the "Piranhas" of online dating sites to shame. All these screenshots come directly from my phone and have not been manipulated in any way other than the crude cover-ups of usernames and photos to protect the identities of those involved. I may decide to change this feature in the future, considering some of these people really deserve to be publicly shamed. But I'm not quite ready to take that step.
All the conversations you see on this blog are 100% legitimate. I will never alter or delete messages before posting them on here. Everything is a direct screenshot from my cellphone. All conversations happened over PlentyOfFish or OKCupid unless otherwise specified. All the stories I share are also non-fictional, meaning nothing has been made up or falsified for the purposes of this blog.
I hope you enjoy seeing all the crazy, scary and sometimes odd things I come across in my online dating adventures. Questions and comments are always welcome!
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